D A Y t h r e e
Hello, friends. How’s it going? How are you feeling today? Take a moment right now wherever you are reading this to check-in with yourself. Here is your practice for the day.
Your Daily Practice
Go somewhere quiet today if you can, the less distractors and noise the better. Close your eyes, sit in a relaxed pose, and take ten long, deep breaths. The rhythm of your inward and outward breath will infuse your being with calmness, giving you greater clarity to take your emotional temperature.
Ten long, deep breaths might sound like a lot, but when was the last time that all you did was simply be, paying attention to the ebb and flow of the air that’s giving you life? At the end of your breathing, and it should take some time, check in with yourself in a non-judgmental way, allowing yourself to honestly assess how you feel. It’s important to remember that you are not these feelings, nor are you your stream of never-ending and often paradoxical thoughts. If you are feeling left out, restless, or uncertain, know that you are neither of those. Not-a-one! You as a human being are much, much more beautifully complex than the sum of your thoughts and emotions. So when a feeling arises, take note of it and sit with it. Don’t let it define you, but rather, let it shine a little light on a part of you that perhaps needs healing.
Do this breathing practice for as long as you need to, and then in your journal or on a piece of paper, do stream-of-conscious writing for at least five minutes or as long as you feel you need to. Write down all that came to you while you breathed in and out, knowing there is no right answer. You are not your feelings, so whatever you felt does not add up to who you are as a person, so don’t be afraid of what you write. No one is going to judge you, because you don’t need to share this with anyone.
Once you have finished this practice, go on mindfully about your day giving yourself permission to rest. The first few days of habit shifting are the hardest. Be gentle with yourself. And if you feel tempted to check in with social media and not your feelings or the state of your soul, give yourself grace. You are doing this retreat with many other women who are very likely feeling the same as you at this very moment. You are not alone. This practice will give you vision to see where you’re at so you can begin to dream about where you want to go. It will likely make visible your insecurities, which is scary but how we overcome and learn from them. This can be messy work, but it’s this kind of emotional gardening that will likely grow the most fruitful harvest.
Although I said you do not need to share your journal reflections with anyone, I am going to share some of mine. I think it helps to see a glimmer of how others are honestly doing to let yourself check-in and do the same. Here is a bit of what I wrote stream-of-conscious…
- I feel freer right now, like I can breathe deeper and more fully
- But I still feel the pull.
- And I miss seeing what’s going on there.
- I wonder what so and so is up to?
- I also feel like I am missing out on opportunities for growth and my business.
- How is not generating an income for an entire month going to affect our family and my work?
- I wonder…
- Yet, how will this time affect my creative energy as writer.
- I feel excited to have this time to reset and write more of my book.
- And I also feel afraid of incorporating social media back into my life and this retreat just started!
- That feels lame.
- Do I not have good self-control?
- Why is this so hard?
- How do I grow my business as a writer in an authentic way and stay true to myself?
- Is this how everyone feels with social media, or just me?
- I wonder…
- Mostly, I feel grateful for being brave enough to do this. I feel brave. This feels brave.
- To give myself the precious gift of time and attention to what really matters.
- To see myself, Andrew, Stella, Theo, Alfie, and others I care so much about, in a more intimate way because I am not staring into the blue light of my phone.
- I feel all of these things, paradoxically so, and it feels good to do a check-in and get more air and more energy into my body.
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